Domestic abuse includes physical, emotional and sexual abuse in couple relationships or in families - Domestic abuse or violence can happen to anyone.
Often with psychological or emotional abuse people may not even realise it is happening to them, sometimes people with low self esteem that they believe they deserve the bad treatment they get.
Some abusers make their victims believe that they are delusional or crazy (gaslighting), or pretend they really care about their victim, but this is just a manipulation tactic to control the person.
Emotional abuse includes but is not limited to the following:
- Make you feel small or put you down
- Blame you for the abuse
- Deny that the abuse is happening, or playing it down (gaslighting)
- Isolate you from your friends or family
- Stop you from leaving the house
- Make unreasonable demands
- Accuse you of things you haven’t done
- Control your money or take your money and leave you without enough essential things
Domestic violence usually happens from men to women, but it can and does happen from women to men. Domestic violence includes but is not limited to the following:
- Holding you down
- Throwing things at you
Threatening violence is still a crime, as are the following:
- Threatening to hurt or kill you
- Destroying things that belong to you
- Invading your personal space
- Threatening to kill themselves
- Threatening to kill someone you care about
- Harass or follow you
- Reading your private messages, letters or emails
Sexual abuse can happen to men or women, and includes but is not limited to the following:
- Touching you where you don’t want to be touched
- Hurting you during sex
- Pressure you to have sex
- Pressure you to have unprotected sex
If you are in an abusive relationship there are, people who want to help you, you are not alone in this but you need to reach out first so that people can help you.
Once you decide that you want to end the relationship it is usually wise to keep things quiet and to be careful who you tell about this.