Nipples

We all have these little lumps on our chests, which can be very sensitive and nice to play with. However, women’s are attached to milk ducts that enable them to feed their babies.

Nonce

A slang term for a paedophile.

Oral

Involves kissing, licking and sucking your partner’s genitals. Can be a very pleasurable and intimate sexual act. Also known as: Going Down, Giving Head, Blow Job (Men) Licking Out (Women)

Orgasm

The emotional and physical response to the build up of all those nice feelings during sex . However, sex does not guarantee an orgasm – they are produced by the brain, so you have to be in the right frame of mind for it to happen.

Ovaries

Are where women’s egg cells are stored. Women have two, and they take it in turn to release an egg each month as part of the menstrual cycle.

Paedophile

Is someone that is sexually aroused (turned on) by children. In the UK we believe this is wrong as a child is too young to understand or consent to any sort of sexual activity. Any type of sexual activity with a child is a criminal offence.
Most countries around the world agree and have child protection laws in place to help protect children. However, there are still certain cultures in the world where young girls especially are ‘legitimately’ married off to much older men.
Legally you are still considered a child until you are 16; however offences against under 13 year olds are often viewed as far more seriously. Be aware – in terms of films and images it is illegal to take explicit images of anyone who is or looks under 18, even if you are sending it to a friend for a laugh.
Being inappropriately touched and sexually assaulted by an adult can have devastating effects on a child, if you would like help and support contact CEOP or BSCB
Also known as:
Paedo, Nonce

Pasty

A pasty is another affectionate name for female genitals due to its shape and its crinkled lips.
Also known as: Vulva

Pasty glaze

vaginal fluid a sign that a girl is turned on and is wet and ready for sex.

Pasty smashing

Not so affectionate term for having sex “I fancy a bit of pasty smashing tonight”

Pearl necklace

Is the affectionate term for when a guy cums on his partner’s chest, leaving a trail of semen like a white pearl necklace.

Penetrative Sex

Penetration involves things going inside things – so usually penetrative sex refers to vaginal sex – a penis (or substitute such as vibrators or dildos) going into a vagina, but can also apply to anal sex -putting things inside anus’.

Penis

The technical name for a male genitals.
Also known as: willy, nob or cock.

Perineum

The technical name for the sensitive spot between a person’s genitals and their bum-hole.
Also known as: gooch.

Period

The common term for a girl’s menstrual bleed. This happens once a month and lasts for around 2-7 days. It is when the lining of the womb falls away gradually ready to be replaced each month. To find out more see Changes for Girls

Popping your Cherry:

Is another term for losing your virginity. It specifically refers to the idea of a girl bleeding when her hymen (her cherry) is broken when she has sex for the first time. However this nonsense!
Some people believe that the vagina is originally covered with a very thin membrane called the hymen, which is broken the first time you have sex and this is what causes a girl to bleed. In some cultures they still hang the dirty bed-sheets from the wedding night on the line to prove to the neighbours that the bride was still a virgin until she was married.
The trouble is this is simply not true! Think about it, how would a girl’s period come out if her vagina was covered in a thin piece of skin? What’s more some girls would be losing their virginity to tampons if that was the case!
Whist the hymen does exist it already has a hole in it. Most girls when they are born or very young infants will have already have broken the thin membrane without any issue, just from moving around. The reason that some girls may bleed the first time they have sex has NOTHING to do with the hymen; it has everything to do with her natural sexual responses not quite working properly.
The fact is there is no reason why any girl should bleed the first time she has sex… if things feel sore at all – stop, slow down and move back a few steps. Sex is not a race; take your time to enjoy all the lead up, not just seeing sex as the main event.

Porn

Is generally taken to be material, photos, film or even literature that it highly explicit showing people either having sex or in sexual situations. Legally you must be 18 to watch or make explicit material. To find out more read the pornography section

Positions

There are many different ways that two people can fit together and have sex with each other. Everybody is different, there is no right or wrong ways to ‘do it’ – the fun is experimenting and exploring with your partner(s).

Pregnancy

Is the word we use to describe when a baby is growing inside a woman’s womb. The baby is conceived from one sperm from a man and an egg cell from a woman. Pregnancy last for 9 months (40 weeks) .

Promiscuous

Is a word we use for someone who sleeps around, having many different partners. It is often used in a negative judgmental way. However, having sex does not make you a good or bad person. But ensure if you are having sex, you are doing it because you want to and enjoy the experience, rather than you feel like you have to or should do and are using contraception to prevent pregnancy and STIs everytime
Also known as:
Sleeping Around, Slapper, Slut

Prostate

Is the gland (along with the seminal vesicle) that produces a guy’s semen. It is also known as the male G-spot, as when stimulated (through inserting a finger up a guy’s bum) it can produce very strong orgasms.

Puberty

The physical and emotional stage where a child’s body develops into that an adult’s and gets ready for sex and making babies. Puberty usually starts around 9-13 years old and lasts well into a person’s early 20′s.

Pubes

Or public hair is the short and curly hair you find around your genitals, under your arms (chest, back, bum, toes etc.

Pubic Lice

Commonly known as crabs. A bit like head lice, these little creatures can be passed on through close body contact, sharing towels or bedding. You need to use special medicated lotions to get rid of the little blighters. To read more click here for our STI pages…
Also known as:
Crabs,

Pussy

Another term for girly bits -female genitals. Can refer to either the vagina or the vulva.

Queef or Quief

Another term for a fanny fart.. A fanny fart is a real test of how you see sex. Whilst it can sound embarrassing it is nothing to stress or worry about. In fact, a fanny fart is caused by air being trapped inside the vagina (from things going in and out) and are more common when a woman is wet (and therefore turned on!) so in fact a fanny fart is often a sign that you are both having fun.
(Whilst having sex is a serious thing to consider) – this doesn’t mean you can’t have fun and a giggle! If it does happen to you laugh about it – if you can’t see the funny side of sex you aren’t doing it right!

Rainbow kiss

This term has been around for a long time and has many different variations depending on your social circle – generally though they all have to do with sharing sexual fluids through kissing after oral sex. Sometimes confused with snowballing – when a guy comes in his partner’s mouth and then they kiss his semen back into his (or someone else’s mouth). Fluids mixed can include semen, vaginal fluid, menstrual (period) blood…

Rape

When someone is forced to have sex or perform sexual acts against their will. We typically think of rape as something that happens when a stranger jumps out of the dark with a knife, actually a person if more likely to be raped by someone they know.
For help and support or more information contact Bradford Rape Crisis

Rectum

Technical term for the final section of the tube from your large intestine that connects to your bottom hole or anus.

Relationship Abuse

Also known as Domestic Abuse and it isn’t something that middle aged couples who live together experience. In fact young people aged 16-19 years of age are most at risk from suffering from relationship abuse Visit to find out more about how to get support .

Reproduction

The act of producing offspring and making babies. Sperm + egg = baby. However, there is far more to sex than merely reproduction

Rimming

The act of licking your partner’s bum-hole. That may sound disgusting to some people, but there are lots of nerve endings in the area and can feel very nice. However, ensure they have good personal hygiene and if you haven’t both been tested for STIs, use dental dams to prevent passing on infections.
Also known as:
Bum Licking, Analingus

Rodeo Style

This can refer to either a sexual position, also known as the cow-girl – basically the female will straddle her partner and ‘ride’ on top.

Schlong

Usually an Americanism for a penis.

Scrotum

The wrinkly sack that a guy’s testicles hang in. They are sensitive to temperature, as a man’s body will always try to maintain the temperature of their balls at 35C the perfect temperature for producing sperm.
Also known as:
Ball Bag, Family Jewels, Sack

Semen

Male sexual fluid. This whitish sticky liquid helps protect the hundreds of millions of sperm that swim inside. A guy typically produces 5ml of semen when he ejaculates.

Sex

Can mean many different things. It can mean gender (man/woman), the act of reproduction (making babies) or all the rude stuff people can do to get themselves or others off.
There are hundreds of different terms for having sex, some nice and romantic, some not so nice and often considered offensive. Some are just euphemisms to save the embarrassment of saying the actual words…
Also known as:banging, bedded, boffing, bouncing, coitus, doing the sideways tango, fornicating, fucking, going at it, getting with, humping, jumping their bones, laughing together, making love, nookie, poking, rudeness, screwing, shagging, sleeping together

Sexual Orientation

We often use the term sexuality when we are actually referring to a person’s sexual orientation. This is all about who we fancy and find sexually attractive. You can either fancy males, females or both (some people are asexual and do not find themselves sexually attracted to either).

Sexuality

Is a person’s sexual identity but it is often understood to mean their sexual orientation, whether they are gay or straight. However, it is much more than that it is also, who they are, what their sex drive is like and ultimately what turns them on.

Sixety Nine (69)

A sexual position that allows a couple to give each other oral sex at the same time.

Slut/Slapper/Slag

All these words are negative terms to describe a girl who has a reputation for sleeping around. Unfortunately these terms are used in an effort to upset someone or make other people think less of them and often has very little to do with their actual behaviour. There is still a huge gender stereotype that sex is for guys and girls should not enjoy or want sex. This is nonsense.

Smear Test

A name that is sometimes used for a Cervical Screen

Smegma

Often lovingly called nob cheese! It is a whitish lubricant that prevents the foreskin from sticking to the penis. However, if it is not washed away regularly it can get a bit smelly as it combines with bacteria and urine – nice!
Also known as:
Smeg, Nob Cheese

Sperm

Is the male half of making a baby. A sperm cell carries half the genetic information (instructions) to make a baby, the other half comes from a girl’s egg cell. Men make about a 1000 sperm a second per testicle! And ejaculate about 300 million sperm in 5ml semen!
Also known as:
Tadpoles, Little Swimmers

Spit roast

Usually involves two men having sex with a woman at the same time, one in her mouth and one in her vagina. One would be having sex with her (vaginally) whilst the other receives a blow job.
Also known as:Threesome

Spunk

Another slang term for a guy’s cum (semen).

Squirt

Is another term for female ejaculation. Some women, when their G-spot is stimulated in the right way, will release a small amount of clear fluid from their urethra (the tube they wee through, but it is not wee), often accompanied by a very intense orgasm.
Also known as:
Female Ejaculation

STI

Sexually Transmitted Infections are the same as STDs although this is an old fashioned term for them. An infection that is usually passed on by having sex with an infected partner – often through their sexual fluids (semen = men, vaginal fluid = women). To find out more visit our STI pages…
Also known as:
STD, Clap, VD, Blue Waffles, Dose

Sunflowering

A more subtle and loving term for a sexual act like fisting. You insert five fingers inside your partner and then open them up ‘like a sunflower’. Again this needs much care, patience and lube to ensure no harm is caused to your partner.

Syphilis

Bacterial STI, that used to kill 1000s in the middle ages. However, we have cleverly developed antibiotics to treat it nowadays. Usually, sufferers will develop a distinctive rash across their chest and back, plus palms of their hands and soles of their feet.